Anxiety takes many forms, there is what we class as healthy Anxiety, going for a job interview, it can help us to give our best. Meeting new people some anxiety is totally normal and shows we want to make a good impression. Unfortunately anxiety also has an unhealthy side, where our anxiety stops us going for the job we want and stops us from meeting new people .

Taking the first step to knowing your anxiety is stopping you from being who you want to be is a good start. Many people don't take the time to listen to their inner voice or even realise that it is their anxiety hindering their future life goals.

Changing how we feel is the difficult part, in-fact change makes even the best of us anxious.

How do we break that viscous circle?

We can see why it is a vicious circle if we don't have the strength to fight it we never get of that wheel.

Thoughts and  feelings  result in behaviours that are not beneficial to our peace of mind. The more we use the false behaviours the more embedded they become the more  they tend to feel normal.

The first thing to look at would be our trigger, what is it that we fear? 

This can be a difficult question to answer, do we actually know what it is, is it real or is it imagined?

 So in counselling we may start with your behaviour and then work backwards. This way we can start to see a picture of the thoughts and feelings that go with the unwanted/out of date behaviour.